Where are all the MEN in America?

I am a Woman who wants a real man. One that don't play victim or blame every one else instead of manning up and taking all comers in the face of adversity. The way I see it, if a man can't take control without making excuses weather they are valid or not he is not a man. That is why I think I wasted my vote on President Obama. he can't just do his job so he blames others, what I hate about it is our nations young men see him as their leader and think thats what being a man is.